SAY IT ALL VIA MUSIC!!!

SAY IT ALL VIA MUSIC!!!

April, 2012
 

Music is considered as one of the most powerful tools for expression. Whether that emotion is pain, happiness, love or lust, music is a great form of communication and expression

 According to the Psychology Press, Music is a complex acoustic and temporal structure that induces a large variety of emotional responses in listeners. 
Music allows couples to express themselves when they do not have words to express their feelings, or if they need to apologize for something they do use music to convey their message .Listening to your favorite music can make a person feel great and can make our moods change. Music can alter you in many ways, depending on the genre of music you are being exposed to.

 According to "Music and Emotions", Electronic music with amplified sounds that stresses such musical parts as brass, percussion and heavy bass notes will physically affect you more easily than any other type of music. Certain types of music can give you courage and strengthen your willpower, while other types can relax your nerves and muscles and relieve tension. Music can give you strength as well for example when players are getting ready to play the match it brings great strength and courage to the players.

The specific song we are listening to can affect how we feel. Different types of music may make us cry, laugh, or even feel anger.  Some songs remind us of some events, or moments of our life which may be very special to us. For some people music acts as a relaxing pill.

Some listen music in their happy moments some in sad, some when depressed. It is also a great way to remind your loved ones that how much he or she means to you, it can bring some sweet memories and even help to create some new ones.

Additionally, music has the ability to allow couples who have lost the connection to reconnect or to strengthen an existing connection. It evokes emotion in such a way that the person you’re expressing yourself to truly understands.

In short, music works for us because it expresses the harmonics of the soul. It helps us when we have no words to express!!!!!

SELF INJURY— an increasing fashion!

SELF INJURY— an increasing fashion!
April 4, 2012

Self injury or self harm is an attempt to cause harm to one's body, people adopt it as a way to express their feelings and a way to punish themselves.

Ways of self injury include cutting, burning, taking pills and to some extent nail biting and lip cutting as well.

Ratio of self injury is more in youngsters then people of other age groups as in adolescence people are more keen and enthusiastic about their life and future and when their dreams and desires are not fulfilled or they don't get others attention they harm themselves.

Mostly Self injurers feel relief and some feel alive by doing so. They might be unable to handle intense feelings, have dislikes about themselves and bodies,

Self injurers have many reasons for doing such act, Emotional problems like failure in expressing their feelings, communicating their message, love problems, sadness, anger, guilt, shame etc.

It may also be accompanied by depression and a range of psychiatric problems such as mood disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, borderline personality disorders etc.

Other reasons might be failures, loss of loved ones, lake of attention from others, parents and peer pressure.

Some people also adopt it as a fashion. It may be the influence of media which is promoting self injury via drama serials and movies. People follow their star personalities in this regard and also do it to impress and attract others. In love affairs some write their lovers names through blades on their arms. Tattooing is also a kind of self injury but people adopt it as a fashion.

Certain myths and facts are also there regarding self injury.

Self injurers can be handled through little effort. Professional treatment from therapists and counselors can be taken in extreme cases where as the self injurer also have to take some steps personally in this regard (like trying to be busy, deep breathing, exercise, trusting parents and friends, staying connected to the religion). Parents, friends and other people who see the victims of self injury are also required to pay some attention for the sake of their loved ones.

I conclude that Ratio of self injury is increasing day by day youngsters are seemed harming themselves frequently and especially they are adopting as fashion and due to the company of bad friends. There are many ways by which we can save youngsters from harming themselves and coping this situation. For the elimination of this evil not only the behavior of the injurer has to be checked but the friends and family of the injurer also have to play an important role in this regard.

TODAY’S SUPER HERO’S SENDING WRONG MESSAGES TO BOYS

TODAY’S SUPER HERO’S SENDING WRONG MESSAGES TO BOYS:

April 10, 2012

The author states in this research that Batman, Iron Man and Spider-Man might be impressive and powerful at the box office, they aren’t so good for today’s youth say psychologists. During last week’s Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association mental health professionals said that, while yesterday’s heroes fought crime and made better role models, today’s superheroes are too violent and send the wrong messages and images to young, impressionable boys.

“There is a big difference in the movie superhero of today and the comic book superhero of yesterday,” said psychologist Sharon Lamb, EdD, distinguished professor of mental health at University of Massachusetts-Boston. “Today’s superhero is too much like an action hero who participates in non-stop violence; he’s aggressive, sarcastic and rarely speaks to the virtue of doing good for humanity. When not in superhero costume, these men, like Iron Man, exploit women, flaunt bling and convey their manhood with high-powered guns. ”

By contrast, Lamb says, superheroes of days gone by allowed boys to learn from them because they had vulnerabilities when the capes were off. Lamb came to these conclusions by interviewing nearly 700 boys between the ages of 4 and 18. She and her team concluded that marketers convince these boys they can either be players or slackers – in her words, a “narrow view of masculinity”. One of Lamb’s colleagues says boys are better adjusted when they resist internalizing macho images. ?

In short, Boys these days are getting wrong messages from these characters which have been designed just for the sake of entertainment, they do follow them and show violent behaviors  and sometimes they adopt these heroic attitudes just to impress and attract girls so these messages are affecting there lives badly.

The Facebook addiction spreads

The Facebook addiction spreads

April 20, 2012

A new pestilence is sweeping across the land with unremitting virulence. You may have

thought you were safe from it. You may have even thought you would be able to control

the disease-that you were immune from it. No such luck. It has spread to this campus. It

has spread to your homes and offices. It has even spread to your home computer. The

name of the disease: The Facebook.

Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about. Don't act like you haven't already

spent hours adding friends and joining random groups, including the group entitled "I'm

addicted to Joining Random Facebook Groups." If you actually haven't encountered this

epidemic. Whose side effects may cause grade reduction and sleep deprivation, I will

explain. 

Facebook is possibly the greatest and most entertaining timewaster disguising itself as a

unifying college community since study groups. Registration is simple; you must simply

have a university e-mail address to join. You can then create your profile, much like a

typical forum Internet site, and start viewing profiles along common interests, joining

groups and adding friends. After that, you can begin to indulge in the witty and highly

intellectual discourse about cartoons and living in a van down by the river. You can

convince yourself that you're doing something productive and noteworthy, especially

when you join or form an organization group, or even meet new people from the many

other colleges hosted on Facebook. But let's face it. Facebook is entertaining and

addictive, pure and simple. Most of the groups center around various movies, TV shows

and hobbies. Even more include what we would call MSU in-jokes, hooking people with

Waffle House, the wave guy, hatred of online homework and various fan clubs for

random unknown individuals. 

You do get more than entertainment from Facebook, though. As I was browsing last

night. Presumably doing research for this article. A certain sense of satisfaction crept up

on me. I was seeing people online that  I had noticed throughout campus, and even had

classes with a few of them. I saw how people I knew were connected to other people, and

even other people I knew. I was starting to get a sample of just how interconnected this university is. 

Not only does everyone know everyone, I began to realize that people were actually

talking and finding common interests outside of their own group of friends. How often

does that really happen walking across campus? We see people every day, and we talk to

people on the cell phone between classes, but where can we find the free discourse of

Facebook anywhere else outside of organizations? 

Facebook is a place for unlimited communication-where anyone can talk to anyone

without barrier. And we can do it all on our own time, without leaving our own territory

or comfort zone. And where can you find a place that you only talk about one common

interest. People do not have a sign on their foreheads listing that they're interested in '80s

movies and skeeball.  Neither can you simply ask, "Hey, I was looking for someone who

likes Bob Marley and, hey, you look like just the type..." Yeah. That would work. That's

where The facebook comes in. Not only can you join the Bob Marley group, you can also

click the link to Bob Marley in your interests. The site will perform an instant search

through profiles to find all the people who groove to Marley.

And I've only been talking about people from MSU. On this site, we can have the same

type of discourse with college students all over America. Our relatively small community

of MSU can expand to encompass like-minded "scholars" from far and wide. We can

discuss sushi with a guy from Maine. Isn't that fun? As with any form of entertainment, especially on the Internet, we must use moderation

and not have to join the group "Facebook Made Me Fail My Exams!!" We must

remember that with great power, or a great forum site, comes great responsibility. Your

Bush group can wait until after physics homework.  Just keep repeating that to yourself, and you may believe it.

JEALOUSY AND RELATIONSHIPS

JEALOUSY AND RELATIONSHIPS

April 22, 2012

“Don't waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.”

This little quote explains the term jealousy very beautifully. Jealousy s a very strong and passionate emotion. As this quote indicates that sometimes it is good for you but sometimes it do not works in favor of you. A person experiencing jealousy sometimes remains behind.  The most beautiful kind of jealousy is the jealousy you feel in a love relationship. In a love relationship slight jealous feelings may even be endearing and show our partner that we are concerned and  we care about him. It is important to show trust at this stage, but the dark side of jealousy can be an ugly thing, bringing out the worst in people. Insecurity is magnified by jealousy, and lovers often feel inadequate and not good enough for their partner. If jealousy is the other partner it may be dangerous for the beautiful relationships. Jealousy can come in the form of needing to know where your partner is at all times, or wondering what he is doing on his phone his computer, who he is meeting with. But the point is to remain calm and positive, if this is done to much the other partner may get irritated and problems and fights may occur. Jealousy should be   positive in a sense that you do not mistrust your partner.

My favorite saying which describes jealousy in a relationship is “I am jealous of the people you hug because for a moment they held my whole world!!! This indicates that in a love relationship we feel jealous just due to our innocent feelings of love, just due to a little fear of losing our partner. Although experts haven't reached a general consensus whether jealousy has a purpose in a loving relationship, the only certain thing is that its presence would always prove problematic if left uncontrolled and dominant. Finally I would like to say that is a hard question that a jealousy is good for relationships or bad but for me it depends on to what extent. If you are too jealous she/he may leave you but if you have too little then I suppose it is normal. We just have to trust our loved ones and we should give them a little space so that they remain loyal to us.